We don't Know what we Don't Know

I Never Knew What I Didn’t Know: A Journey of Self-Discovery, Healing, and Reawakening

“We don’t know what we don’t know.”

This phrase has shaped so much of my personal and professional journey. At first glance, it seems simple—we can’t be aware of knowledge or experiences we haven’t yet encountered. However, if you sit with it, you’ll start to notice something deeper. It speaks to the mystery of life’s unfolding, the patience required in self-discovery, and the humility of realizing that each revelation only uncovers more of what lies beneath. It shows how much of your potential is lying dormant.

Every step I’ve taken has led me to moments of saying: “I never knew…” These moments reshaped my identity, my relationships, and my healing. They taught me the importance of patience, compassion, and remembering who I truly am.

I Never Knew I Was Autistic

For years, I suspected I had ADHD but never considered Autism. I attributed my differences to distraction, scattered focus, and being “different.” But as I began learning about Autism, something clicked. Suddenly, I could see myself in the traits—sensory sensitivity, hyperfocus on specific interests, and struggles. I realized how much I had masked to survive in Western culture and navigate social interactions.

It was as if someone had switched on the light in a room I had been stumbling through in the dark. This realization wasn’t limiting—it was liberating. I finally understood that my brain wasn’t broken; it was just wired differently. With that came immense relief and further self-acceptance. Once again, I was reminded: we don’t know what we don’t know… until we do.

I Never Knew I Had Psychic Capabilities

Psychic abilities always sounded like fiction, reserved for characters in books or films. I never considered the possibility that I had such gifts. But as I began to tune into my intuition and undergo psychic training, I noticed subtle shifts:

• A sense of knowing without explanation - Claircognizance

• A feeling that guided me in the right direction - Clairsentience

• Insights that appeared before logic could catch up - Clairvoyance

• An ability to communicate with people's loved ones on the other side - Spirit Channel

  
  

At first, I doubted myself. However, the more I trusted these moments, the more I acted upon these internal nudges and insights. They grew, and I allowed more insight to flow to me. Psychic awareness wasn’t about developing a new skill—it was about remembering something ancient, something already within me. It required patience, deep listening, and the courage to embrace what I once dismissed. “Some truths reveal themselves only when we are ready to receive them.”

I Never Knew I Could Build a Website

In our digital world, a website feels like a necessity. But when I first considered it, I was overwhelmed. Hosting? Plugins? Code? It seemed impossible. Still, I decided to try. Step by step, tutorial by tutorial, YouTube video after YouTube video… mistake by mistake, I built my first website.

What once looked intimidating became empowering. I learned that most obstacles in life are simply unknowns. Once you lean into them and ask yourself more questions (compassionate inquiry), the trauma coding is exposed and released. The patterns holding you back in your life, that you never knew about, simply disappear and lose their power.

The website wasn’t just a platform; it became a symbol of resilience. Proof that patience and persistence could turn “I can’t” into “I did.”

I Never Knew How to Sustain a Healthy Relationship

For a long time, relationships were difficult. I longed for deep connections yet often found myself in cycles of miscommunication and disappointment. It wasn’t until I began studying emotional intelligence that I discovered what I had been missing. Healthy relationships thrive on:

• Mutual respect

• Active listening

• Vulnerability

• Speaking your truth

  
  

It sounds simple, but practicing it required dissolving trauma coding, old patterns, and forgiving myself for the times I didn’t know better. Relationships became my teachers. Each misstep became less about failure and more about growth. I learned that love doesn’t mean perfection—it means patience, compassion, and honesty. Using compassionate inquiry helps you move through difficult times and become less reactionary, not taking things so personally.

I Never Knew Hidden Trauma Was Running My Life

One of the biggest awakenings in my journey was discovering trauma coding—the way past experiences quietly shape our beliefs, reactions, and choices. For years, I carried invisible trauma coding, unaware they were influencing everything. When I began uncovering them through introspection and therapeutic practices, including compassionate inquiry, I realized how deeply trauma had written itself into my cellular memory.

It wasn’t easy. Facing old pain rarely is. However, it was essential, and compassionate inquiry is a non-invasive way to unpack trauma and release emotional baggage. Once I saw the coding, I had the power to release it, creating space for new, wonderfully rich, deep positive experiences to arrive. Healing became less about erasing the past and more about reclaiming my agency in the present.

I Never Knew What Life Could Be Like Without Depression

Depression once defined my world. It was a heavy fog that colored everything, convincing me that joy was out of reach. I believed that was just my life—permanent and unchangeable. But as I engaged in therapy, breathwork, and practices that supported my well-being, something shifted. Little by little, glimpses of joy and optimism returned.

It wasn’t linear. There were setbacks. Eventually, though, I discovered that depression was not the whole truth of me—it was just one chapter. I would later realize there were so many layers to it than simply intergenerational trauma. The possibility of joy, inner peace, and hope had always been there. I just didn’t know it yet or how to create it… that was the driver though—how do I generate inner peace and get on with my life?

The Gift of Not Knowing

Looking back, each “I never knew” moment taught me the same lesson: the unknown isn’t our enemy—it’s our teacher. Not knowing keeps us humble. It challenges us to grow. It invites us to be patient with ourselves as we learn, heal, and awaken. When we say, “I never knew,” we aren’t admitting failure. We’re acknowledging evolution. We’re recognizing that we’re always becoming, always unfolding into more of who we really are.

Breathwork: Navigating the Unknown

One of the most powerful tools on my journey has been Breathwork. Breathwork is more than breathing deeply; it is intentional, conscious breathing that connects us to the deeper layers of self, including our trauma coding. Through it, I’ve been able to:

• Release long-buried emotions

• Access memories hidden in my body

• Reconnect with my inner calm and clarity

• Continue to develop my intuition

  
  

Breathwork has become a bridge between what I don’t yet know and what I’m ready to remember. It grounds me in the present while opening the door to profound transformation. “Our breath is not just air—it is the rhythm of life itself, guiding us back to our innate selves.”

Remembering Who We Really Are

At its core, self-discovery is not about becoming something new—it’s about remembering who we’ve always been. We are not broken. We are not incomplete. We are layered. With every revelation, every “I never knew,” we peel back another layer of conditioning, trauma, or fear to uncover our true essence. We don’t need fixing… our trauma coding needs an overhaul.

So, if you find yourself in a season of not knowing, be patient. Your answers are not absent—they are simply waiting for you to ask yourself the next gentle question.

Final Reflection

We don’t know what we don’t know. And that’s a gift. It keeps us curious. It keeps us open. It invites us to approach life with humility, wonder, and the courage to grow. If you are in the space of not knowing—whether about your identity, your path, or your healing—remember this:

✨ The answers will come the more you use compassionate inquiry with breathwork.

✨ Patience and non-judgment of self are part of the process.

✨ You are already everything you’re seeking.

You may not know it yet, but you will. And when you do, it will arrive exactly when you’re ready to receive it.

Ready to Begin Your Own Awakening?

If parts of this journey resonated with you, perhaps it’s because you are also standing at the edge of your own “I never knew.”

As a Psychic High Performance Coach, I help people like you uncover hidden patterns, heal trauma coding, and reconnect with the intuitive wisdom you already carry. Together, we create a path forward that feels aligned, expansive, and deeply true to who you are.

✨ If you’re ready to step into your own reawakening, I’d love to guide you.

Book a session with me here or join my community to begin your journey of discovery. Because you don’t have to navigate the unknown alone.

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